Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Gital Dodelson, agunah

She would desperately like to be something else. But the "agunah" label is what has unfortunately defined her for the last 3 1/2 years while her ex has denied her a get.

She finally went public in the secular press. The result is this article in the New York Post.

Even well over a year before this article came out, Gital had publicized her case against her ex husband, Avrohom Meir Weiss, resulting in protests outside his home and condemnation of him and his prominent rabbinic family (he is a grandson of Rabbi Reuven Feinstein and a great grandson of Rav Moshe Feinstein), which has strongly supported him. So they put out this packet of information to defend themselves.

I looked through the information there and here's the thing. Maybe she's the guilty party here in the custody battle. Maybe he's right that he was condemned unjustly for going to the secular courts, when she put him in a situation where he had no choice. Maybe neither of them are blameless in this extremely ugly divorce.

But NONE of that justifies, in ANY way, the withholding of a get. Nowhere in the Weiss defense did I see a justification for that.

That she may not be blameless has absolutely nothing to do with the get. A get should NEVER be hostage to ANY part of divorce proceedings. To use it in that way is disgusting, and justifies any and all vilification of Avrohom Meir Weiss.

He should give her the get, then they can hash out the rest. That's what decent people do. The man gives the wife a get. Then they can negotiate the terms of the other details of the divorce.


  1. http://daattorah.blogspot.co.il/2013/11/weiss-dodelson-divorce-r-avraham-meir.html

    1. Read between the lines. The link you provided says:

      "If Gital really wants a Get - it is clearly available - but only through good faith negotiations."

      That still sounds like "If Gital really wants a Get, then she just has to follow my conditions".

      How is that not withholding a get, and using it as leverage?

    2. Exactly. A get is not supposed to be conditional, otherwise it's extortion.